Man-up already!

In my last post I mentioned that there are a couple of guys who have had potential dating wise.  Most recently there have actually be three.

First there's the pilot who is great looking and fun to talk to.  We met online and have thus far only talked with, in theory at least, plans to meet in person one of these days.  This is the guy who swore that he has lay-overs in Chicago on a regular basis so we'd get to spend some time together face to face but who (of course) hasn't had a single one that wasn't a quick touch-down and take-off since we've gotten to talking on a semi-regular basis.  I mean, heck I live close enough to O'Hare that picking him up for a quick coffee at the Starbucks a few blocks from O'Hare before taking him back to the airport ahead of his next flight out would be easy enough!  This is the guy who I've recently found out gave me his middle name instead of his first name and a shortened version of his last name.  Hello...I have his phone number and all it took was a quick Google search with that number to get who the number is registered to!  In a nutshell, this is the guy who is sending up so many red flags that I know I should walk, no run, away fast!

Then there's the guy I was supposed to get together with the weekend of the 20th.  Due to his allergies acting up he had to cancel.  As someone else with allergies, I certainly understand and respect that.  We were in touch all last week and then were supposed to get together this past Saturday for first date round two.  I was totally flexible on where we could meet and what we might do but, yep, you guessed it, I didn't hear from him at all with firm plans.  Really?!?!  Fool me once, shame on you but fool me twice and shame on me.  Needless to say this guy won't be getting a third chance at a first date since this weekend he didn't even have the courtesy of giving me an excuse on why he was blowing me off.

And then there's the last guy.  This is the guy who I went out with a couple of times at the beginning of the year.  The guy who seemed very interested and was making an effort.  The guy who then just dropped off the face of the earth.  He then decided to reappear in late June claiming that life had gotten hectic (which I all of all people completely understand) but he went on to say that July was going to be so much calmer from his end and that he was looking forward to making plans with me during July.  And I can count on ZERO hands how may times I've heard from him since.  Apparently July was so much calmer that he found many other things to occupy his time with!

If you decide that you're just not that into me that's fine but man-up and just say so.  As long as it's said politely then I can put on my big-girl panties and take it like a woman.  Really...I can.

I applaud the couple of men who have had the guts to be straight-forward and honest with me that, while it was a nice dinner / coffee / lunch / drinks / whatever, it just isn't going to go anywhere else.  In one case, I was thinking the exact same thing and in the other, while I would have liked to take things to a second date, I appreciated knowing from him where he stood then being left to presume.  And I can assure you that my presumptions would have also included some less than stellar descriptions of him as well for leaving me to presume.