Just One of the Guys

As a female who is seen as "one of the guys" I'm the one who hangs out with her guy friends at a bar for Monday Night Football to have a burger and beer and actually watch the game.  I'm the one who knows just enough about sports in general to be recruited for trivia to fill the sports gap when the guys can't make it.  And I'm the one my guy friends turn to when they want suggestions of who I might be able to set them up with.

Not that they want to go out with ME...instead they want me to recommend any one of my single girl friends who they can go out with.  In fact, this happened just last night.  One of my guy friends decided that, six months post-breakup with his most recent girlfriend, he's ready to start dating again which is a good thing.  Then he turned to me and wondered if I know of any single women who he could ask out.  Never mind that I'm a single woman myself who he knows quite well but instead he wanted to know about who I know whose single and female.  The sad part is that he's not the first of my guy friends to do this and, most likely, won't be the last.

But it's still bothersome that none of the guys I know even remotely view me as a woman they could consider dating.  I'm not saying fall madly in love with me or marry me tomorrow...simply go out on a date with me.  And, while my girl friends say they know of guys they could consider setting me up with, that has yet to actually happen despite all their talk.

Yes, I know that in today's "modern" world I could ask a guy out.  Call me old fashioned, or very shy as is more accurately the case, but I prefer a guy to make the first move.  It doesn't have to be a big, bold move but expressing any interest whatsoever would be a major success in my book.  Is that really too much to ask?