In the movie When Harry Met Sally, there is an entire conversation between Harry and Sally about how "men and women can't be friends because the sex part always gets in the way."
While I've thought about this often and wondered if that's true, it really hit home for me this evening. After spending an amazing Saturday (July 2nd) with a group of friends on Lake Michigan on one of our friend's boat and then grilling out at the marina, the group dwindled down to three couples plus me and one of my guy friends who I've known for upwards of ten years.
This is a guy who I've traveled with a couple of times (both times with a few other people) as well as seen on a regular basis over the course of these years. Yet we've never dated, expressed interest in each other or done anything that could possibly muddle the territory of pure friendship. But in my ever single state and as more and more of my friends are settling down I've really started taking a look at my guy friends and wondering why they and I haven't ever tried making a relationship work as more than "just friends".
Is it that I'm not attracted to them? Are they not attracted to me? Is it that, by some unspoken agreement, we don't want to risk our friendship by adding an attraction to the mix? Or, as that aforementioned conversation between Harry and Sally goes on to say, is an attraction already there in one way, shape or form just waiting for us to realize this and act upon it?
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