Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Just one of the guys or more?

A few months ago I blogged about being "Just One of the Guys".  About being the poker playing, sports watching, occasional beer drinking girl who my guy friends turn to as the voice of reason when they need female advise.  About how they view me as just one of the guys and not a woman who they would date.

Just before Memorial Day one of those guy friends asked me out.  On a real date.  With just the two of us.  Since then we've had a couple of solo dates along with time spent alone before / after plans with our larger group of friends.  We enjoy each other's company even if he does slightly struggle conversation wise.  But still...a guy whose actually interested in spending time with me is a good thing, right?

Sadly he's quickly failing.  As mentioned, he's not the most conversational.  And the couple of times our "status" has casually and quite naturally come up in conversation he won't commit to anything and acts vague on what he wants or doesn't want.  And he hasn't made a single move.  At all.  He treats me the same as he did before asking me out...as a platonic friend who he happens to see one-on-one.

In a move totally out of junior / senior high school, one of my friends pulled him aside yesterday and point blank asked him what was going on between us.  His response was to say that we're dating.  Somehow I missed that memo and, thankfully, my friend asked him if he and I really are dating to which he then didn't seem as sure.  Um, either we are or we aren't but maybe he should actually take the initiative and let me know what he feels is going on.

Oh...and making a move to show his interest wouldn't be such a bad thing either.

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